Feeling snubbed by ladies who meet together in town for Bible study

Q: I used to be in a mom’s Bible study with several friends that I started. It was wonderful. It lasted probably 5 yrs or so, with about 15 ladies attending.

Then, one of ladies started her own Bible study with many of the same people. She never invited me or 2 other of my friends that were in the group. She does regularly invite (new) women I know to that Bible study. 

I live in a small town and while we don’t go to the same church. Basically all the devout Christians are connected and do see each other fairly often. 

Sometimes people even ask me why I don’t go. I say “I’ve never been invited” and they look shocked that no one invites me (it’s at this other gals house). 

My question is, would it be weird to ask her why she’s never invited me? We are somewhat friends. On the one hand, I tell my kids not to invite themselves places and that people can’t invite everyone. On the other hand. This seems pretty deliberate and like there's a reason. It feels like the Biblical thing to do would be to just go to her and ask. Advice on how to handle this?

A: Not sure if it desolved cuz you ended it, or she began one herself and they all moved over there. 

Go to the gal and say, "I'd love to attend these studies, but not sure if theres a problem. Is there a reason you consistently dont invite me?"  If she snubs you, is rude, avoids answering, or says false things...

This issue might move into Matt 18. The church/her church might need to get involved, cuz this is not ok behavior. Initiate it. Cuz others in the group will behave that way too, by example. Take 2 from the group you fairly trust to call her out in love, and call her to repentance and restoration. If it doesn't work, go to her church, to the decons, explain the issue and that youre escalating it to them under Matt 18. They should take over, call her to repentance or escalate further. Follow up with the church and your pastor, to try to get this resolved where reconciliation and restoration happen. If not, if they love the flock, the leaders will remove her membership and allow God to discipline her... till she repents if it, is reconciled to God, you and her church, bringing restoration in all these areas, restoring fellowship. Plus, her church shouldnt allow her to partake the Lord's Supper until shes reconciled & restored. In this way, God shows the seriousness of sin and importance of living holy, if one Professes Christ. Their life needs to show it in truth. 

If the study is not connected to your church; sanctioned by, created by, (ensured to be kept in biblical orthodoxy by and under the authority of your church), with content 

 of study approved.... then dont go. Any wonky thing can be taught in a mixed group. 

Another idea is the next time a lady asks you that, say, "Are you inviting me? I'd love to go, to see everyone and participate." And then go as her guest. Sometimes there could be miscommunication and the study gal might think you dont like her so youre not attending. 

If anything this option allows you to get in there and after the meeting, go through thd originsl above cinvo to see where things are.

Imo.... just find Bible studies at your church. Place yourself under the care of the shepherds there, it's why youre a member there. 😉

If you dont do any of the above conflict resolution ideas, and you run into those gals, or some include you sometimes to fellowship hang outs, fine, as long as theyre in biblical churches, professing [the true] Christ and obeyed the [true] Gospel. Far too many false churches out there masqurading as Christian. So Beware.

When you run into them, invite them over for tea. For short fellowship meet up, keeping things focused on Christ, prayer and how theyre doing. 

Ask your pastors wife, and other godly women over, have your own lil fellowship meet ups. Join studies your pastors wife goes to within your church too. There's options. And many times small intimate groups are way better. You can add new believers and members from your church to it. Even if you have rotating teachers [even men; leaders]. 

If your church is super small without women in a 10 year age difference of you, ask the Pastor & wife what other churches your church associates with in the county, nearby, and get connected wuth them. Those churches will hold to same beliefs as your church, at least on the important essentials. You can befriend saved ladies there and join studies, fellowship meet ups and events with them. 

Optionally, not necessary, but allowed: maybe invite other ladies attending the other gals studies, to join yall. Hold it on a diff day if you want to, or have a seperate fellowship meet up on a diff day to get to know more if the ones going to that gals studies. Imo it avoids issues and allows for church discipline (if ever necessary) by the congregation if its only folk from your church. Outside folk can cause messy issues and no one to hold them accountable. 

But, can't hurt to figure out the reason you were snubbed, and close that chapter. Folk will think what they like, and eventually the truth will come out [if she is being unChristian about any of it].

God bless.