Help; married to a anti Christian
Q: I found myself married to a man who argues against Christianity, churches (and going to church). Imagine you were married very young and didn't realize how much they didn't like Christianity at the time, and they tried to steer you away from your faith. They were also belittling, narcissistic, and gaslighted you. Yes, there were good times in the relationship too, but they were very manipulative and controlling, and made you doubt your worth/value. I'm staying for the vows, but I feel like I'm married to the devil's advocate at times.
I don't go to church anymore because he doesn't want me to—but I'm wanting to go again and just drive myself there. I need to put God first, then him second. Right now I'm putting him first and God second—and I feel so far away from God that I want to come “home.” I feel like this relationship has pulled me from my faith and I need advice how to be near to God, and honoring in this marriage.
No income of my own—clinging to my faith to sustain me. I need advice. Early 30’s. No kids. Wisdom and Godly advice welcome.
A: Trust God. That's the answer. In all things trust God. Hes soverign, He provides.
God calls us to stay married. Idk if you have godly parents, are in church and seek counsel from your pastor, went thru pre marriage classes etc or not, but we are not to marry anyone not a true believer. We should seek godly counsel, esp young. Not doing so shows probability of not saved [going your own way].
Youre stuck there, and have to go through the trials (consequences of marrying unequally yoked). Many of us find out our spouse was false convert afterwards. Some times one gets saved after marriage, etc. God has allowed it and will use it to grow you in sanctification, in the Faith, and to be the light in the home, ministering there.
Sinners gonna sin... its all they can do. You cant expect Christian behavior from those spiritually dead. Satan's children will always try to dash your faith, get you to compromise or give it up for peace in the home. Don't let Satan win. Youre in a spiritual battle.
Remember Scripture calls us to Obey God over man. You have to look at it this way: hes in thr sin nature, blinded by Satan, a child of Satan. What's Satans goal, and thus his children's? To decieve, to steal, kill and destroy. Its a spiritual battle. Satan wants you to stop going, stop growing, stop being a Christ follower. So reject satans lies and tactics. Go anyway. Live your life following Christ.
If He screams and throws a fit, remember thats how demons/unsaved behave. See the demon possessed in Scripture... its how they behave. Ignore tantrums, stand firm. Don't let him steal your faith nor destroy it.
These will help you as you live a godly life where you are. His need is Jesus via the Gospel. Not a thousand other things, not church nor this or that. You need to get at the heart of the issue. So if God saves him, hes transformed into a new creation.
* Incls a resource in marriage area for witnessing to him ✨️✝️
*The Unequally yoked resources link there will greatly bless too 😉✨️
Go through these resources and you'll have solid guidance. 😊
God bless
