Men want peace at home
Men dont like dealing with struggles, confrontation and problems, even when they should, if theyre unsaved.
Men seek PEACE at home and in their life. It's why the overwhelming majority of the time they marry someone who can bring peace, (and those whose family isnt loud or obnoxious, same with her friends).
Men want peace when they come home. If both are saved then of course the Prince of Peace reins over the home, if not theres a peace imbalance, even if hes unsaved he craves peace (at all cist dven if it causes a rift).
Point him to Christ, and pray God saves him so you'll be equally yoked. Until then, make the home, (at least as far as youre concerned), a place of Peace. Don't share gossip or your complaints of things in life with him (like constant problems with your parents or friends or work stuff). I know it seems like you should be able to talk to him about all things like a bff, but it backfires if he's not saved and not a mature believer, because men desire peace at home.
If you are not contributing to that peace, it will not be a happy marriage. He will become bitter, resentful and it snowballs. He might even seek peace in some side-piece, or avoid being home. If you need someone to share life problems and troubles with, [beyond God in prayer], do so with a Biblical Counselor, so they can help you see things from a biblical worldview, & help you conquer emotions and other areas to conform you to and renew your mind by the Word, so you can handle these issues well...and have a godly mindset that's maturing, with good guidance.
Our church Shepherds take decades to impart these truths to us by the pulpit, many Sunday school classes & Bible studies that likewise touch on them, but when we haven't gone through all those things (to be mature in the Faith and have a godly mindset that's mature), we stumble and problems arise.
So when possible, contact a biblical counselor to help guide you into that maturity, time after time, so you save yourself growing pains, and problems with others, esp not overwhelming your husband and leading that into real marriage issues. Those counselors will be a huge blessing to you. And its fine if you talk to different ones when its not marriage related.
Do find a guy counselor for yall for marriage counseling, and seek that one's guidance for any marriage counsel, even if its you needing help and not a couples meeting, since he will know the history. It will be a big blessing if you do. ACBC are the best ones, but if yall dont have money for one, Focus on the Family has free marriage counselors, just ask them to counsel from Scripture. That way you'll get better advice & guidance from them.
God bless
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