Will I go to hell for having sex with my bf.
Q: I have recently given myself to God and gotten baptized.
I haven't had sex with with my Boyfriend in 6 months. I feel like he's losing interest. He hasn't necessarily "asked" for it . But he will throw out hints.
We've been together 2 years and I don't want to lose him .
Would God send me to hell if I have sex with my Boyfriend?
Mind you , I was baptized and washed away my sins including future sins..
I need help !
Thanks
A: Obeying the Gospel saves you [God causes you to be born again]. Baptism afterward that is just a public testimony showing you have already died in Christ and are risen in Him.
If your bf isn't Christian, share this with him, discuss the link video, and if he comes to Christ... put boundaries around your dating, never be alone anywhere (where sex could happen). Have him join the local church, get discipled by the men at mens group there, seek counsel from them, and grow in holiness. Pursue self control and sexual purity.
If he doesn't come to Christ, then let him go, exit the relationship. Do it because you love God. Go find a godly saved man to be equally yoked with, who is striving to live holy, self control, and remain pure till marriage. If he seeks sex from you... he's not for you. God would never put you together with someone who seeks to sexually sin. Wait for the right one.
These can help Christians for dating related.
Having sex/fornicating with him means your rebelling against God, not caring that your purposefully willfully committing a crime against God and your body. It means your not fearing God rightly and don't see sin seriously. And not caring about what it took/the cost Christ paid for your redemption. If you love God you will obey him. Not just that, your new righteous nature will hate sin and not want to do sinful things (like look for loopholes to sin). You'll want to live in righteousness in holiness. Salvation is not a license to sin, it restores us to who God created us to be, holy, set apart to Him, to live for Him, glorify Him and live in righteousness. Someone born again now possessing spiritual life, and the communicable attributes as an image bearers of God and growing in the Fruit of the Spirit. They pursue holiness and to be more like Christ.
The lust people in sin have isnt the "love" they think they have towards someone, is a false western pagan view that isnt aligned with biblical truth. True Love comes from God. One who possesses that attribute rightly will not seek to (nor ask you to) sin against God, against you, and both your parents by fornicating in sin. Love is patient, kind, enduring, humble, self sacrificing, and not selfish or fleshly. True love does what's right.
If you dont desire to obey God, & stop fornicative sinning, your salvation may be in question. You likely didn't come to Christ for righteousness and to follow Him.
Count the cost. Coming to Christ is dying to yourself, and for submitting to Him; Christ is now sitting on the throne of your life.
Hope this helps
