Teaching preteen about biblical marriage, but how to talk about divorce?
Q: What would you do in this situation?
If you are teaching your preteen daughter about the Bible and about marriage and how you can biblically get a divorce if your spouse commits adultry… If she asks ‘have you or dad ever committed adultry” and your husband has, how would you answer.
Obviously I would not say yes. But if I say something like we don’t discuss things like that or something a long those lines would that look like I was trying to cover up the “yes”?
A: Your child might have fear of her parents splitting, so she asked. I wouldn't bring up divorce, I would focus on marriage and how God calls us to work through problems and sin so theres no divorce.
I would focus on "why divorce isn't to be an option", but also the reasons it could happen, esp if unequally yoked, but that God desires the couple to focus on repentance, correction and restoration as marriage is a gospel witness. So a prof. biblical counselor would help you maintain and repair the marriage.
This also gives you a good opportunity to discuss the Gospel, and only dating & marrying a godly man.
Go through NeedGod.com with her, to call her to salvation,... and also have her watch Voddie's series on Love & Marriage and discuss it, and your expectations of her. That you do not allow her to date an unsaved guy, and he has to be vetted by you as parents and the pastor before you'll allow any dating, and there will be boundaries set to protect her.
Hope that helps.
God bless
