Fornicating couple w/child on seekers path needs advice about sex before marriage
Q: I KNOW what the right thing to do is and that’s the goal but was wondering:
My partner and I are very new to religion. I have a very corrupt vision on religion due to my childhood and my mother. We have been going to church regularly but I am struggling finding full faith (so any tips on that would be great) but we do have a kid. She’s 2.5, we are not married but have FULL intent to get married when our relationship gets a little more healthy.
How many people still have sex not married? Again, I KNOW the right answer I’m asking if you still do not married. I’m not talking about sleeping around, just one partner that is very serious and were married in our head just not legally.
A: If we are saved, we love God and naturally by our new nature want to live holy & obey righteousness. So you would not live together nor fornicate, and would wait till married.
Here's some resources to help you as you start this journey towards faith. Make sure your both saved before you marry, as God has forbid believers being unequally yoked. If one of you is not saved, and the other is, you cannot marry. It doesn't matter if in your sinful previous life before Christ, that you fornicated and the consequences of and natireal outcome was a child.
NeedGod.com video is the starting place. If you both understand and genuinely embrace this, then you obey the Gospel, and at that moment are saved.
Then you can marry. Asap.
As to faith info and questions, to obey the Gospel we have to have a right understanding of who God is, and who Jesus is. With that basic foundation, you can then obey the Gospel.
Here is some basic info about God & Jesus on this page, (don't go thru the links there yet, just go through the page for basic info).
Then understand the Essentials of Christianity.
Once you review both of those, you can then review the Gospel.
Jesus in Mark 1:15 said "repent and believe the Gospel." Once you believe by faith, you are saved. However there are people who do not genuinely obey the Gospel and Jesus explained the soil parable about those false converts. So we can see fruit proof of one's salvation, showing God has radically transformed them by giving them spiritual life, by which the inner man can live righteously, not moralistically, idolatrously nor legalistically. They're a new creation, the inner man has spiritual life. And his life shows it, though progressingly into maturity. If one is saved, God worked a miracle in their life, and it will show.
This is why it is wise to not marry someone who just claims to be saved, but you wait to see if the friut of their life shows it as genuine.
As to some of the main things you are likely struggling with, as you want to make sure it's true, well by faith a person gets saved, but it is a Faith of truth and evidence. So these 4 videos here can help you both, as you start down this investigative path... to lead to salvation.
We dont need to know everything or have every answer taken care of before we get right with God through faith in Jesus. We just need to know what is reasonable to show it is true. After we are saved then we begin learning about the rest and get other questions answered. If the foundational truths [shown in all the above] are understood, we can begin our life with Christ as our Savior.
Besides the below related resources, this resource will help you as you begin your new life, and this will help you look at areas of fruit proof to examine yourselves as you continue in and persevere in the Faith. Do not marry until it is clear the very dramatic, radical change is not short lived, but truly proving over a good period of time that both of you are genuinely saved. It can take a few years to know. But it is better to wait than be chained for life unequally yoked to an unsaved person, where you will be in constant conflict and strife, without Christ at the center of your lives,and without your children being raised under the faith together with a hisband as spiritual leader of the home,.... and with no help to help you solve problems and fix things, since the other person rejects Christ, godly counsel and biblical worldview.
Christ is the foundation of a godly marriage and a expected basic for a believer.
For now, focus on the earlier above to help you understand, obey the Gospel, and solidify your faith at the core basics. After that you can look at the rest of the resources here. Bookmark this page so you can come back and access all these things in the coming days, weeks and months ahead.
God bless
Related:
Further, since you had trouble with religion in the past, I recommend also, going through these resources. I hope it helps you.
How do Christians live life?
Things to understand about Church
Additional Resource
The above noted the Fruit of the Spirit. While the Believers Resource does provide these helps, you can do a study about them here. As you likewise can above do a study on God's Attributes to help you understand who God is and little bit more, so when you grow to know more about Him from seeing his good and perfect character as you see various situations unfold in Scripture in man's life and his promises kept. It can help you as you trust Him, and are lead by Him through times of suffering, struggle or persecution.
God bless.
