Sins among believers
Repenting and have Faith is one thing happening at one time; it is two parts of the same coin. That's why repentance is connected to and required as part of salvation. It seems two things, but it's one. It all happens at the same time.
It isn't what you choose to do with your sin. When you changed your mind about yourself and put your faith in Christ, you changed trajectory. Your on a new path. It's a full radical change. You're a new person with a new mindset.
So when someone who is professing Christ as their Savior sins against us, how do we deal with forgiveness? We as believers are to have a repentant attitude, to turn from sin when it's brought to our attention. Being grateful someone brought it to our attention, And should as one living in holiness, be desiring to constantly seek , kill and have victory over our sins.
So if someone sins against us, we need to go right away, to resolve it. Being wise, loving, patient and using self control. To bring it to resolution to restore fellowship. We realize our sins are not just to one another, but primarily towards God, thus we should seek to repent & resolve this issue immediately. Not doing so or not receiving the correction as the sinner, causes God to not hear our prayers until the sin is resolved. Our fellowship with God is blocked until it is dealt with.
If it is just assumptions you had, and got feelings hurt, the other person may not have done wrong, nor intentionally. And in any case, if you hide, avoid them, or gossip about them, you are further in the wrong. We are not to be scary cats, but love one another. And you are doing that by going to someone to discuss a matter in private together, is the first step to reconciliation. Even if it's simply your own misunderstanding.
When problems arise, communicate. It's best to immediately ask for clarity, to avoid misunderstandings. Even politely asking what do you mean by that?, or can you explain that so I don't misunderstand? That way things don't fester and become blown out of proportion, cause you to sin, prevent you from the Lord's Supper, or can help you come alongside using biblical ways for conflict resolution in addressing a offense or sin to you, which is firstly against God. Keeping in mind many are new, weak believers or at some level of maturing and aren't perfect. Some are even 10 years old, 15, 25 or over 40s. So in many cases you can simply not get offended and forgive them. In certian cases you do need to go to them and deal with the sin.
If they died, or continually sins against you and has no desire to make amends, theres a place for (and it is good to) letting it go, and move on. (See Prov 19). It frees you, leave it with God, and prevents you from the sin of bitterness and grudges that only hurt you [not them]. Just suffer the loss,... and if they aren't actually saved God will deal with them at death, and if they are saved, those sins are forgiven through Jesus. And if you let it go, don't let it resurface. Love them when you see them, do good to them. Don't think on it again. God doesnt with our sins.
If it's a sin that's in church discipline, then go alongside as the church is doing to seek repentance, doing so in love. Even of they're kicked out of church, we still love as we do our enemies, we just aren't to fellowship or eat with them, (or it makes it seem like we aren't living a set apart and holy, but can mingle live in sin and claim to be of Christ but live like they arent). We can once they repent and are reconciled and restored to fellowship [when the/through the Church restoring their membership].
Jesus has paid for the sins of all believers back at the cross. So sins/offenses are not going to cause salvific issues, just relational ones. But if not addressed can lead to problems, and even church discipline, or God disciplining.
The below can help more on this topic.
Conflict Resolution
Hope this helps.
God bless
