Live in bf w kids says we're married cuz we had sex. What is the truth?
Q:I have a sincere question that’s been bothering me.
Is there anywhere in the Bible that says you are considered married through spirit?
My partner is 5 years knows a lot about the Bible it seems, yet we argue about this.. he calls me his wife and I’m expected to call him my husband. He got upset when I told him "I think we are sinning or living in fornication because we aren’t married and living together /had kids out of wedlock". But he keep saying that we are married because 'we have been made as one'....even though we didn’t say any vows to God or each other. Can you help me so I know what to do here.
A: Without vows officiated by pastor or other authority authorized person by the govt, (like a justice of the peace), there is no covenant marriage made with God, so you technically are not married and it seems like he’s trying to use the Bible as a manipulation tactic to avoid you gaining legal protections afforded to a spouse.
Why buy the cow when your getting the milk free. Why wouldn't he in sin have his cake and eat it too? Your enabling his sins by going along with it. These are the ways of those in darkness; held captive by their sins and led by Satan. Not the way of living that holy redeemed people who follow Christ behave.
Examine these, (and the govt faq link here as well). It will show the error.
As a professing believer... 1. You should not be in a live-in situation with him, nor fornicative relationship if you claim to be saved, so move out and go the holy path. 2. If hes not saved (& living holy) you need to cut him out of your life, immediately. It sounds like he's faking Faith to keep you entangled with him.
If he didnt claim to "know the Bible backwards and forwards" I would direct you to Breaking off an Unequally Yoked relationship....
But since he is playing manipulative games, it appears he's not saved, not living holy, and just trying to keep you there for a comfortable life of sin, and prevent you from going to live for Christ. He's likely using the kids as an excuse too, (thinking you won't go follow Christ, taking them with you). He's banking on your weak will. Do not get married to jor trapped by him. ✨️Go. Obey & follow Christ.
Once you leave, Grow in areas that will help you walk in righteousness and mature in the faith. These will help 😊✝️
God bless
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