Married the wrong person?
I think I married the wrong person, I was dating him, fornicating, and ignoring red flags for 2 years then I got pregnant with my son... & then we got married 2 years later because I wanted "to get right in the eyes of God". (He fought me for 2 years on getting married because he said it only benefits the woman- then eventually he agreed to do it.) We have 2 kids now I just had a beautiful little baby girl, and looking at her has just made me realize a lot of things. Like if she came home with someone who is like her daddy, I would tell her to run far away from him & it makes me feel sad that I think that of my husband. He struggles a lot with lust which has been the biggest problem in our relationship, & whenever I try to talk to him about God & reading the Bible he brushes me off immediately & doesn’t care to listen. Im losing my faith & have been thinking of divorce but I don’t want my kids to have separate parents. Please pray for my marriage 😢
A: The devil dupes women to think they need to marry the person they had a kid with, when fornication is a one time thing, where as chaining yourself to Satan's child fir life as a wife is a life ruining trap. Its unfortunate mindset. God has said NOT to marry unequally yoked, so it wasn't God's plans for you to. Usually the woman feels she can't do it alone and finances and other stuff that come w the consequences of their sins, but also without any solid consel around them they shotgun wedding to hid their deeds to try to legitimate it.
The only good thing here is that God forgives and can work in our mess to bring about a good. That isn't always the outcome, for it to work. But the good may be him leaving you and you being free. Don't make a similar mistake to divorce him as it further puts you in sin problems where there's no blessing. You don't want to have to stay single forever biblically.
If you have a pastor you should seek his counsel. If you aren't at a church yet, you need to make that a priority, along with marriage counseling. First for you to get guidance, and then to bring him along. If God will restore the marriage and save him too, that is the hopeful goal.
You need that church community, but ultimately because we are to be in and of the local body. Folk today always trying to do solo Christianity so they can do what they want, when its not going to work. It will never work, because God didn't design it that way. We aren't lone rangers, we're in the body and just like the hand can't do without the body, you cant live the Christian life without being in the local church. The Church is the Bride. We are One body and cannot function nor live rightly without it. So go join a church today and get plugged in and active there. No excuses.
On Church Matters to grasp
Your child still has 2 parents no matter what. But focus on growing in holiness in your own life to be the light in the home. Go to church and take the kids, even if he has no interest. Use that time to plant truth into your kids, even in the car on the trip. In case you can't do it at home when hes there. If it doesn't bother him, do it anytime also.
As to your husband, until he's saved he will "only always continually sin" (as Scripture says), because he's trapped in the sin nature. It isn't until God transforms someone upon being born again, that they hate sin and have new right desires. So the focus needs to be on you growing in the Faith and you walk with God, to draw him naturally to Jesus thru you. That's why the NT says for such wives to remain married.
These can help you on your journey and help give you peace and strength....😊
Resources for your faith as a woman, wife & as a married. Scroll to each section.
Marriage Shadow points to the importance of the marriage covenant and why we milestone strive to the end [even thru great difficulty] to not break it in divorce.
Unequally Yoked Resources for Living godly before your husband
Go to a Biblical Counselor.
This can help you discuss Christianity, the Gospel and faq he'll of have objections about or genuine questions you can address.
This can help you solidify your faith. 4 videos
And this treasure trove will help YOU grow in the Faith. It is where you should park yourself daily the next several months. It also has a parent section to help you raise and educate your children in the faith. If you do that well, they'll understand they must only date, court and marry someone who is a vetted believer. Not a professor who may be a false convert, but one who is a true believer living holy.
God bless
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