My life isn't going how I want
Q: I’m needing some prayers. I know God calls us to carry our cross and it’s not supposed to be easy. But I feel abandoned and it’s more weight than I can bare. I’ve been drifting from God and I feel how empty I am without Him but my cup was still empty trying to be a disciple. I lost all of my friends. My family.
I’ve lost a ton of weight before coming to God and I always felt like I’d never be able to get married or have children bc no one would want to. And as a Christian having to add waiting til marriage and so much more to a God first relationship likelihood went down much more. I’m tired and I feel my heard hardening and being far from God. But I feel if I don’t put down my cross and go get things myself I’ll never have them. All I’ve suffered is loss and 0 blessing since God and trust me there’s time where I REALLY needed them. And I think it broke the camels back.
My depression and anxiety are steeling my joy and causing me to lose my faith. This world is very very tough and I would rather not be here. I’m also ready to give up spiritually and physically. I’ve been suicidal and don’t want to do anything anymore. I always hear he never gives us anything we can’t handle but I’ve been given it all with no one to talk to or no peace at all. I’m dying in all areas. But I have to watch him give to people who already have it all.
A: Why would any believer desire the sinful ways of their world? It sounds like there's a salvation issue here if you are desiring sin & not God's ways; your design/righteousness.
For a life partner, we only look in places where worthy candidates are found, and the 1st place is in our local church and among the righteous redeemed ones those folk know. Look in the right places. This is important to grasp.
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Relationships for the Redeemed ones is to be "we on mission for Christ", with eternal purposes day to day. We don't run to or join to Satan's children, thats crazy. That sets you up for a very miserable life and one that can & will wreck your faith, if you run towards it. I've heard countless laments over being stuck married for life to a unvetted person who isn't saved. Do not forfeit a lifetime of blessing for one of utter misery to try to push to get some guy any guy vs the one God had for you at the right time ... and when you are ready for one (matured in the faith and ready).
Mark 8:36
For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?
Why chase after things that wreck your whole life, and eternity??
If you are born again by God then you are not abandoned. He is with you and walks with you through all things. You just have to seek his guidance in the Bible on how to handle every circumstance. Too many avoid the Scriptures since in it God tells them the way to go, but they want to sinfully go their way. For those unsaved they avoid, for those saved... they run towards God's way naturally, desiring it and are grateful for the guidance. God guides, leads and is with them.
People suffer a lot in this Fallen world, all of us, and understanding that, and God's grace to believers is how we can think rightly. Not complaining, nor be discontent but look at what God is doing in your life. He is always up to something by allowing these things or direction them... ultimately for your good and those around you. Even if its discipline. Many are and have and will go through much more than you have, even the righteous ones examples in Scripture, even me. So you need to keep things in right perspective.
If a believer, it is part of the sanctification process. God is calling you to be in the Bible daily and to use these situations to draw you closer to and more reliant on Him, and to conquer sin too.
One other problem is not being an active member at the church, desriring to be there every Sunday with the brethren to worship as one body, to learn and grow and get counsel but also to serve others and God with the gifts he has given you to use there and out of love. Avoiding church shows there's a heart problem.
Be in the Word, pray, go to Church every week esp Sunday. Be active there. Ask questions, get deeper guidance there among the mature believers and leaders there. Then live out the righteous life. Check your faith and reasons you came to Christ, strengthen your faith, and live for Him trusting him who cares for you.
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Also, the latter things you wrote, that's not a Christian mindset. And, He doesn't say that that either.
"We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about the troubles we experienced...We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself....had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead." 2 Corinthians 1:8-9
We haven't endured half what those in Scripture have on a more serious level.
You have Scripture to guide & your local church. They are your people to talk to, delaying doing that hurts you and delays you moving forward out of the sinful pity party, and to living right.
Further, Why are you looking at others lives?
Jesus in John 21: 22 spoke on this.
"Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You -- follow me.” so...
God has different plans for them. Don't be focused on envy, greedy, discontentment attitudes, etc when God has given believers more than we deserve just by salvation.
Its important to have a godly mindset. Correct that and you will do well. And be on your way to maturity in the faith. 😊🫂✨️
You made it this far in life, so God provided what you actually needed. He has a plan for everyone. But will only bless believers who are living right and pursuing righteousness.
Matt 6:33
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." Yet it is seeking in His will, not your selfish desires. God is not a genie. We are not above Him, but serve him.
And,...Of course we lose people.
Jesus wasnt even recieved in his own town and his siblings didnt even believe him.
Jesus in Matt 10:34-36 also said to us:
“Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn “’a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’
Because people hate truth and Righteousness, and want to be the god of their life to live in Sin, not accountable to God their Creator.
Why cling to those who hate our loving God and Savior. The world doesnt understand, or does but due to love of sin is at emnity unjustly against God.
At the same time, make sure they aren't leaving you because of ungodly ways you acted towards or around them. Cuz that be your fault. We are called to be Christlike and live in righteousness, no matter how others treat us. Thus we live out the Fruit of the Spirit, we forgive, don't hold grudges, we are patient, kind, loving and give grace and mercy to those who dont deserve it and to those who repent.
I am not sure how new you are in the faith but you need to understand these things to mature as you renew your mind and live rightly.
You need to understand who God is, and what the true Gospel is. And read and know Scripture well. Make that your priority and then no matter what comes in life you can think right and go the right way joyfully. Your hope isn't in this world but the Lord and the eternity to come.
If we are a believer, we died to self and live for Him.
God bless
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