Struggling with faith, and sexual sins w/ fiance
Q: I used to be closer with God. And when it came to relationships a lot got in the way. I recently was baptized again and a lot changed for me and my fiancé. I just don’t have the desire to do anything anymore; I just want to wait for marriage even though we have done stuff in the past? am I wrong for that iI just don’t want to be with a unbeliever, and i just want him to get closer with God...
it’s just been on & off!
A: You def need to prioritize God over everything else.
Note. Baptism doesn't save you or make you clean. It's a one time event in obedience to God's command for after you get saved.
It is important to get saved and ensure you are walking rightly in the Faith, following Jesus; dying to self and carrying your cross daily to show you are truly a follower of Christ. At conversion the inner person is transformed by God and the Holy Spirit indwells you (at the same time), who guides you into holy living. And we are to be renewing our mind and growing daily, & obey... not grieve the Holy Spirit. Believers are not ones to live in sin but those who falter temporarilly get back on the right path.
You mentioned your desires changed and you want to live rightly, but what about him? If he hasn't got right with God, it would be a red flag since if he has no problem with going against God by luring you into sexual sin (to begin with & any attempts from now on); it shows his lack of self control, but more...a lack of fear of and respect for God, and lack of respect for you and your parents too, and if he is "professing" to be a believer hes got an additional disregard for the shepherd leaders at the church; who are guides for holy living. Then, hes disqualified to be a candidate for you. He's def not husband material. He would need to get right with God, repent and forsake sexual sin, & get his life right, & spend time growing in the faith (relationshipless), to even qualify to be a candidate to be any womans husband.
You can't turn him into a believer, only God can do that. Any belief that you can change him is grossly incorrect and will only cause resentment from him - as he is happy the way he is; in the sin nature enjoying the sins he loves. And he expects things to keep going the way he prefers.
Go through these to get understanding on the serious importance of all of this.
Make sure you are actually saved, as many decieve themselves (as false converts or just as idolatrous moralists). Once you settle that, make sure you read DAILY (and obey) the Bible to grow in holy living and mindset. Of course it goes without saying you need to be a church member at a Bible focused church, and active there on campus weekly. All these are the very basics of the life of a Christian. Submit to God, follow His ways in loving obedience, not your desires and preferences.
May God be with you.
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