UY- How long the suffering lasts and of hope for spouses salvation
Q: I need some encouragement & guidance. I’ve been praying for 4 years. I know some have been praying longer and others have seen their spouses come to Christ.
Today I saw this question "why didn’t God stop the marriage if he knew this was going to happen", and I need biblical direction on this matter.
I was so rebellious at an early age in my life; I was striking back from things that were done to me as a child, stupid sexual sin choices as a teen, and in my desperation to get out of what seemed like worse situation (in my early adulthood). I know I am living out the consequences of those choices but... I wonder how long do I suffer - till death do us part (?) or will my marriage be redeemed, my husband find the Lord, or will God rescue me?
How do I find Joy in my situation? How am I not teaching sinful patterns to my children that confuse them about marriage?
There is no physical abuse just a lot of differences, and he is mean sometimes. He enjoys politics, stock market, very laid back, sedentary, critical, self focused. Me very little news media, try to keep my focus on Christ, love church, working out, volunterring.
We are like living in two different worlds, dark and light, world and spirit. I’m praying for God to reveal my sin in me, and help me and to see the good in my husband. I know that God is a possible God, but this feels impossible. The worst is I feel like I am giving up hope.
- Defeated
A: It is good you are open to God guiding you and helping you rid of any sin in you. This is important in this context.
And you're right. That's what unequally yoked produces. Some have very bad living situations, (yours sounds like God gave you more grace than others experience, so thank God🙏).
God didnt stop it because your freewill choice "to marry him", or he allowed it/uses it for your sanctification (pruning & growth), and as testimony to help other UY wives and how we suffer in a fallen world, how believers live thru tribulations in perseverance etc, [whether he gets saved or not]. Varied reasons he allowed it and He will use it.
Your joy is in your salvation. And in trusting God is in control. He works all things out for His plans and will. Your best life is in eternity, not in the measly 20 to 90 yrs on earth. Nor in a marriage.
Your husbands salvation is between him and God but you can live godly before him, progressing in holiness and thats all you can do; Be living, gracious, forgiving, etc as God was to us as his enemies b4 we got saved.
Here's resources to help you
Right mindset, grace forgiveness & love
Living with grace Unequally Yoked
Growing in sanctification, Christian walk
Resources for Growing Believers
God bless
