Unequally yoked & desire to help false convert husband
Q: My husband and I have been married for over 24 years. I love him more than I know how to express, and I’m sure he loves me the same. He treats me beyond how I ever expected to be loved and treated. We have a strong, loving relationship.
The issue is, of course, the spiritual difference. He goes to church with me on Sunday mornings only, but he wears his sunglasses half the time and sleeps a lot. He will go to special functions occasionally, (if I tell him that it’s really important to me), but he doesn’t enjoy it. He says things like, “I’m a believer,” but then goes on to talk about how the earth is millions of years old and questions the validity of some of the Bible. He says he’s a Christian, but he swears like a sailor. He tells me he will be in heaven, but then the other day when he mentioned something the Bible says to a friend, he preceded his statement with “I’m not Biblical, but . . . “ Once during an argument, he told me if I was so religious, I wouldn’t have said/done what I did. Sometimes he will say the pastor’s message was good and then will harshly criticize what he says at other times. He went to the Ark Encounter and Creation Museum with me. He didn’t complain, but I could tell he was bored.
I want to believe him when he says that he’s saved, but the actions just don’t fully match. He has sat through numerous sermons over all these years, but there has been no real change. He gets upset with anti-Christian morals and speech against Christianity. He’s friendly with and likes several of the church members but says he doesn’t like organized religion. Any time I voice concern about his eternal soul, he tells me he’s fine and gets kind of angry. I have stopped voicing my concern, but it has never gone away. I have prayed all these years and keep hoping something or someone will finally get through to him. When I think I see progress and get a little peace, something else happens to take it away.
Perhaps you can give words of wisdom, how I can obtain peace over this, & for prayers?
Thank you.
A: First I will note there are "cultural Christians" [in the West] who are just idolatrous moralists. These have no actual clue about God or the transformation that comes once someone is saved.
Additionally there is a false gospel going around (for decades now) and that lead to all the false churches popping up [even leading to progressivism movement. These places and their preachers/teachers are far from Scripture (they dont even believe its contents but like all idolators they pick and choose what they like & make up the rest- to justify their sins)].
I would ask him to read this free pdf short book and "get his view" on what it teaches/says.
Then have him watch this video.
*Ask if he ever understood the gospel explained like that before?, and then
*ask if he has totally surrendered to God or wants to do so today.🙏
> You can ask that lovingly.
Then ask him to pray, and you'll pray over him [together] afterwards.
Here is a study to help get proper perspective on who God is, and having this knowledge can bring help to him having a proper fear of God.
Attributes of God study
If someone is saved the fruit will show and they will grow. 😊. If he gets saved- Give grace there cuz we all are on this sanctification walk; esp babes. He needs to know Christians arent perfect but there is progress towards holiness; being more Christlike. Do ask each other to "hold each other accountable lovingly and humbly" to help us both self reflect and grow.
*Heres helps on cussing and other counsel for growth (for him and you).
For the below, dont have him go thru it until hes done the above. You want to deal with the main important things and first steps, first.
Here are additional helps for growing as believers for Christian Living
As to the issue of 6 days vs evolutionary beliefs this can help him too.
Plus since he was at Ark/Creation Museum he might be open to the podcast [with Ken Ham] in the link. Let God work on him to open his eyes to truth. Just keep being the light of Christ regardless.
Additionally this resource for new and growing believers will be a great help to you both, even if you are the only one using it.
*bookmark this page (& set daily alarms) so you can go through the above contents today & in the coming weeks and month, in a dedicated quiet time at home.
