How should the church think about Detransitioners or Former Transgenders
Detransitioners and the Church
We know that there is an identity crisis with MZ Alpha generation. We also know that 1. People know theyre sinning and they sear their conscience but some dont fully sear it and are given over to their depravity, (Verses). 2. And we know unless God draws someone to himself and saves them... they'll not turn from, denounce and kill those sins in their life.
We know Pastors and church leaders across every biblical church in the nation [and world] are now having to deal with lgbt+ issues since legalization in 2013 and the global "world" embracing of it.
Those things are now more accurately dealt with thru education but it took a while for churches to be taught and guided about it since this was never something in America's entire history that we had to deal with here and in the West. We also know that those who [are in their sin nature] love sin will hate any loving and truth message we bring, regardless of how we bring it.
Along with that are issues we believers who uphold the Bible as guiding & authoritative in all areas still have to address & get guidance on. One is dealing with transgender/furries/trans species et al who are used to false churches of progressivism or activists among them who find themselves in our true Christian churches (either as truth seekers or as activists).
The other issue that needs addressing is Detransitioners. Those (who repented and turned to Jesus) are in the process of obediently going back to who God designed them to be (from birth) and those who already completed that... who come to our churches.
These people have been decieved by public schools, entertainment, news, the doctors & therapists (out for $$, their status & published attention, as well as obeying the laws but not caring about the person), and the college campus culture and education system have greatly let these kids down. Theyre now stuck with mutilated bodies at worst or altered bodies where they look like one thing but sound like another. I've counseled people on how they can address someone who appears trans and is attending their church, but we need to focus also on the scarred ones who turned from the lgbt cult.
What do you do when you run into someone at church who is either a new or long time visitor, a member or someone wanting to be a member who presents somehow as if trans but in reality isnt?
I have recently encountered one womans lament over this. Feeling ostracized in church. And asking for direction. And I gave her good counsel. She appeared raised in Church but was never actually saved until now.
Her lament was:
"Since giving my life back to Christ, I have yet to find a church. I am a de-transitioner my hair and voice are more masculine. I pray that one day I’ll have longer hair, but it’s been hard growing it out. I have tried going to a church that my mom and step dad go to, but I don’t feel a real connection there. I was going to a diff church my grandparents attend for a few weeks, but I don’t think I will return. When I tried to interact at greeting time... people shook my hand, but "looked at me like" I was a sore thumb. I don’t want to give up on going to church, but I just feel like an outsider at the ones I’ve been to."
So her short hair wouldnt really be an issue, since even many cancer patients finally can grow their hair out. And some moms cut it short due to infants and toddler issues, others do so in very hot and humid locations across the nation during summer.
Her issue actual issue was how people responded to her. "Her voice sounds masculine" (since she took hormones that were meant to make her sound manly. which is irreversible). And likely also she appeared with no breasts, if she was that far into transitioning or had transitioned all the way.
I don't normally feel some "alert or flight response" to someones odd vocals, thanks to Bob Smiley in the early 2000's. He was a comedian who traveled nationally with Mercy Me and Festival Con Dios. He had a very high pitch voice like a girl. And it was something we all had to realize "hey, the Fall brings unnatural problems. Errors occur" just like with deformations etc.
But... unfortunately many people in churches apparently do. They think that if someone gets saved theyre perfectly normal as they should be. Well if Jesus was here healing people they sure they would be! But we are dealing now with a generation who, when they genuinely turn to Jesus, need to be loved on in the church by all ages. We need to be ready for when they come. Sure we can & should inquire about things, & vet them, like the Church did with Paul, but after that we need to have open arms to the stragglers from that cult whom God sends our way.
Folk like her havent been there long enough to give their testimony, and its highly inappropriate to inquire when they just visited once or twice too. They need to feel welcome first and churches need to be actively mindful of this.
I would like for pastors who see or hear of those folk who show interest in going to a church (after they visit) to go and see how they can be ministered to and if theyre seeking a church. Then educate the congregation about them. Let or have the person give testimony [after going through a believers class] to their salvation. And include a brief summary that they formerly were walking in the world as a transvestite/transgender. Something like "I was raised in the church, had Church going parents, and seeds of faith were planted, but I didnt understand a lot and had many misconceptions, I also listened to those in the World instead of God and didnt understand the Bible abd Christianity enough. I didnt even actually understand the Gospel. I gravitated to the popular fad of the day (which was the sex cult of lgbt) and became a victim of it while seeking popularity and identity. I had no idea about my true identity being in God's design, but God brought someone to me who with patience explained these things and I turned my life over to God and got saved in Christ. I detransitioned and have put my past in the past. Left it nailed on the Cross at Calvary, and am living new by God's power. However, while I am new and growing, I have concerns about church and church people because while transitioning I had been getting hormones and things that go along with those choices, have given me long term damage. I cant just say I am a girl and presto it is that. Unfortunately my voice has been irreparably damaged so I sound like a man but look like a woman. So I wanted to address this with my testimony so everyone here understands. All other people who turn to God appear normal as they should, but those who have a trans or body modified past are unable to do so. So we still stick out like a sore thumb. I hope your fears have been alleviated by this explanation. I also know as new members join the church, as children & teens come to the church, or grow up here, these things will be discussed among you when talking about me and others like me who come here. My hope is that you will share my testimony and point to how God transforms lives, vs gossiping. As the body of Christ we need to educate and to show love. God bless."
It is important for people to hear such things from the horses mouth. It's best to do once via the platform in front of the church, and be done; not bother the person again about the matter so they can live in Christ - as all others who have turned from their former lives have.
This also means that while she has turned from sexual sin, homosexuality, and her identity crisis, she does not need to be the poster girl to give lgbt speeches. She doesnt need to be expected to go around giving testimony to it either. Many of these folks have had massive trauma in their past that led them to those decisions. Some are more introverted and have fears about men. Leave them alone. If they choose to speak on it regularly let them. If they join community gospel outreach and mention it in convos with someone in lgbt lifestyle then let them. They get to choose when to discuss it and only when comfortable to do so. It is in their past and it should stay there. Just like your former sins are.
1 Corinthians 6:8- 11
"[D]o you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolater,s nor adulterers, nor prostitutes, nor homosexual offenders, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. Such WERE some of you. But you were WASHED clean, [thus] you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God."
The next time you encounter someone like her who visits or is being brought forward by leadership to join the church, keep these things in mind. Do not give them odd looks or look like you want to run away. Don't avoid them. If there is an issue the leaders will address it personally with the person. So regardless of why they are there, love on them. Just like you would a believer or unsaved visitor.
Romans 5:8: "But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners [enemies], Christ died for us."
Ephesians 2:4-5: "But God, who is rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved— "
Titus 3:3: “At one time we too were foolish, disobedient, deceived, enslaved by all sorts of desires and pleasures..”
Romans 5:10
"For if, while we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved by his life!"
Be the light of Christ they see, when they meet you. Let your life and behaviors draw them to Christ, and radiate His love. 😊
God bless
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