A womans desire for submissivness & anger mgmt help
Looking for advice regarding anger management, submitting to husband.. things along those lines.
Q: I’ve only been a Christian for about 5 months, and it feels like I have made a lot of progress, but NONE in regards to being a slow to anger submissive wife. I get mad before I even know I’m mad. I just naturally have an attitude when I speak. I’ll be talking to my husband and he will start getting upset and I’m like “why are you trippin?” And he says I have an attitude. And I know he’s not just making it up because I look back and I can see where he could get that impression but 70% of our arguments happen because I didn’t realize "how" I was talking. I’m also naturally LOUD, when I talk to people they will be like “stop yelling” and I didn’t even realize I was.
How do you realize you’re getting angry/loud? I never do until it is too late. And in regards to being submissive, I have tried little things here and there, like running it by my husband before I sign our kids up for sports, but I feel like I don’t submit in situations I actually need to. And this goes along with the anger, if I’m submissive, maybe I should just be quiet if it’s not a big deal…
A: Some women have loud and outgoing voices and others quiet meaker voices. You are right in that it is really about "how" you say something. And that takes time to master via intentional self control and self awareness.
You are new. Give yourself some grace. We all grow in sanctification (including in the Fruit of the Spirit) over time, but this will be a good help - and a great start 👉at your new beginnings 😀 in faith.
Being a submissive wife first takes understanding of what it means.
What it means to you, what it means to you husband and most importantly what it means to God. They should align to Scripture. Also, Let him lead you as the head of the home and both give yourselves grace when you stumble. He is to love you as Christ loves the Church. He will have your best interests at heart.
If you read Proverbs 31 and study the verses you will see that submission isn't not having power or a voice. It's also not being a silent doormat that just says yes.
The first thing I learned about submission is respect. Respect for the place my husband held in the family. Respect when speaking to him, there is even a respectful way to have civil disagreements. Speak words that show you respect him and often say things about your respect for him too.
There's books here for women to guide into godly living 😊 that can help you in various ways. (Some are audio and free)
*And these areas address submission in various ways too.
Read Scripture daily, and grow in living out the Christian life.
God bless
*bookmark this page (& set daily alarms) so you can go through the above contents today & in the coming weeks and month, in a dedicated quiet time at home.
