College bf abandonment & spiritual guidance needed

I’m in a rock and a hard place. I’m fairly new to faith, haven’t had much time to read as I’m in university full time and work part time. But my partner of almost 3 years grew up as a Christian so most of what I’ve learnt has come from him over the few years.

Now, I am completely at a loss for words. My partner walked away from my home, shelter, food, his belongings. One of the last things he said to me was that he banned me from his sight. Is such a thing even possible? How could he do that? I love him so much and I hold many regrets not being able to study the bible sooner so then I can have the same knowledge he had. I don’t know if I should let him find his path or try and mend what we had. We aren’t married but wanted to get married in the future. We had a huge argument where I tried to voice that as a teenager I did not know Him or know how to speak to Him. I was raised in an atheist household so it saddens me knowing I wasnt faithful to Christ during this time we were together. My partner thought I was blaspheming! That is 100% not what I was doing. Simply saying my experience I did not know how to turn to him… it was a cry out to God, an apology.

If any one has any particular verses related to this, or maybe any book of the Bible that comes to mind… I just really don’t know what to do and I hope reading more and learning more will give me an opportunity to see my true love again.

A: I cannot tell if he left because of walking from faith or from his wrong attitudes that you have a lack of it. No true believer would act that way to a new believer. Horrors. He clearly doesnt know Scripture -- nor have the love of God in him. He also wasnt open to you communucating and to understanding you which is a huge red flag. He should be openly listening, embracing and allowing you to try to communicate your thoughts and feelings on faith matters, and showing patience, self control, love and forgiveness towards any failings.

There is a silver lining here tho... is God appears to have cleaned house for you. A very rare situation. Praise God for it! Its better you didnt marry him as he wouldve spiritually abused you and abandoned you anyway (and likely left you with kids to raise). Too much for you as a young person, and juggling college and working too. It wouldve devistated your life. God saved you from that fate. 

How great of God to do all that for you at once, now, than keep you stuck to someone like that... 🙏👏👏🎉😇✝️

Not everyone who claims to be a Christian, is one. There are many false converts and many who came to Christ or church for wrong reasons. It is possible he embraced such, and was even under false teachers.

God did use the influence of Christianity to draw you to himself, (but it was written on your heart anyway and creation points to the Creator). But praise God he drew you and you came to faith! 😀

He is acting like an unsaved person, and Scripture says to not fellowship with such a person and to treat them as an unbeliever. As a Christian you can no longer be unequally yoked to him. You certianly cannot live together. You have to either follow Christ or the children of Satan. You cannot have both. You cannot have a child of Satan rule over you in the home. Scripture is very clear. If you turned your life to Christ and righteousness you can no longer love ways and what the world does.

Unequally yoked has devastation and darkness... instead of peace, love and light brought by Christ permeating your home 247 365. 

Change your locks. Blick him online and on phone contacts, notify everyone on fb and all your family and friends that he has permanently broken off the relationship and you will not he letting him back into your life, so to not interact with him if he contacts any of them. They need to know so they dont cause problems or let him near so he can worm his way back in or possibly physically hurt you. Let him go for good. 

You lamented not knowing the Bible and not liviving faith right... you need to rectify that and start doing so. 

This has Christian living helps and studies, one you should go through is the attributes of God because you might not be fearing Him properly and that is why youve found yourself in the myre of the world till now. And there is a study on believers & sin there too.

I also do recommend a audio Bible, so you can listen on your way to and from school and to and from classes, and to and from work... and listen to Christian music at lunch break. Join a solid bible church and be there every Sunday. I also recommend going through the Foundational Discipleship course as well since you are new you need to know the basic core essentials of Christianity.

Resources for all of those are in the above link.

One thing important to know is Christians are not to live as those in the world who follow the lustful desires of their sin nature. Scripture teaches more (as does that main link above). On this one point keep in mind: We are to be sexually pure, the Bible tells us, "For this is the will of God ... to abstain from sexual immorality...", it also says "flee sexual immorality. God takes sexual sins VERY seriously.

You do need to repent of any fornication, repent of disobedience as well as of not being in the Word & living rightly. Ask God to lead you.

If your saved your heart mind and desires now align with righteousness so you need to grow in knowledge of Scripture and live out what you learn.

 
The Bible is the life guide for all believers so you do have to read and know it. You grow in your walk with God to become more Christlike but you cant unless you read and obey it. God communicates to you through it. 

Spend your college years studying the Bible as much and deeply as you can, and go to a Biblical church. The teachers, decons and pastor there will help you with questions and help grow you. If you keep in the Scriptures you will later be able to find a godly spouse (man & wife) to marry and live out the godly home life as believers do. The husband is to be the spiritual leader over the wife (and the home, raising children in Christ).  So you need to know Scripture so you can be able to rightly pick a true godly man of the Lord - you'll be joined to him for 80 yrs and your kids will have to live under all that goes on in the home. Pick wisely. 

Determine to have your focus right now on reading, studying the Bible, doing your school work and your job. After college and you find a job, find a biblical church and go there.  Let God direct the rest in your life.

You can find and make time for all of this. You still get a passing grade and diploma. So focus on God more than your grades, but do your best to do all of it unto the Lord - as you go day by day. He needs to be your priority. Be in the Word. [If you die next month you had grown closer to Him, but if you delay & die....you never even knew him.] Dont regret.

Tip. Avoid Christian groups in college as most in them are people from false christian groups, religions and cults. Many are also false converts. So stick to your church and befriend the adults there (whom the pastor & decons consider mature believers). Do not let age be a issue. There may not be college age believers at your church, so just find godly believers of your gender to befriend among the brethren there. They will be a blessing to you.

Online groups are iffy places also as theyre riddled with the same kinds noted above to avoid. It is hard to know who are true believers when online (as a new believer) until you have a solid grasp on the essentials of the Bible and of salvation. So your go to place needs to be your local church. Theyll guide you in truth there.

God be with you.

*Bookmark this page, review the linked resources and their contents - so you can go through the above recommendations.