Ultimate guide to finding friends 😀
If you do not have any friends, have bad friends, or hadly any Christian friends and are looking to find some good friends this can help.
The Ultimate guide to finding friends
For Young folk thru age 19
* look for godly maturing believers at church in Sunday School and youth group. Ask the Pastor or Leader there who are the truly saved ones maturing in the faith there, and go introduce yourself. Ask them over, to get a Boba tea, or something.
* ask the decon and pastor for guidance to help you connect with godly folk they know of in your age group (youth or adult). They also have friends (in ministry or/& their children are likely your age).
* if 18+ look for true believers at christian club at school or college you went to, or are going to, or are nearby one you are considering.
* if your church has a school there on the church campus, check there (among teachers families and students siblings) if you're 8 to 16.
*If the church is small get a list of associate churches in your area from your pastor and go visit their youth groups for a while to find friends; invite ones over you have vetted to make sure they are true believers.
* look for Christian homeschool coop in your area and find friends among them.
* if any reputable Christian ministries your church associates with are in your county or greater area contact them, go visit, volunteer w adults, and get recommendations. Some staff or volunteers might be looking for good Christian friends for their believing teen too.
Whether preteen, teen or college age, you have to vett a person to know if they're more likely truly Christian, so until then just be an associate, dont fall for, cling to or befriend them. Don't befriend the wrong people, and dont become friends "just cuz" they claim to be Christian.
* if you are 18 and still in school or graduated this year you can go to local public colleges and check out the people in the Christian clubs. Vetted them (to ensure the ones you befriend are actually saved) before hanging out.
To find some of these college club places you might use yellowpages.com or ask campus students where a list of the campus clubs are, but you can def find some good friends.
For Adults, over 20
* look for godly maturing believers at church in the adults Sunday School class & in the women's group (or mens group if you're a man).
* ask the Decons and Pastor who they know who are (married/single) godly mature believers, and ask them to introduce you too them, as your looking for godly friends.
* ask the Pastor what churches your church associates with, and then check out those church websites to find out what meet ups and groups they have there. Go attend those groups to make friends.
*As a member, get involved in serving at the church. Theres loads of places to serve. Each serving group has believers there. Flutter through several of them and few months at a time, and find a place also to choose to serve long term too. You could after chit chat with them asking prayer to help God lead godly friends to you [same gender] and then ask them if they know / can introduce you to any godly single folk.
*Conferences. Christian conferences at your church, or with churches your church is associated with (in the greater area) that have conferences. Go. Interact with attendees, meet up after with the ones you meet (who are local) and see if they're truly saved and maturing in the Faith, so you can proceed to friend them if theyre open to meeting up.
Not all will pan out. Trust God to guide the right ones to you and thank Him for removing the wrong ones from your life. If they ghost you or whatever, God is in it. So rejoice. Eventually you'll find some. And when they marry or you do, you can go from there and join Christian married groups, new parent groups, kid play dates groups, mom groups, etc. God will help you through every season of your life, even elderly years should he have you tarry here. 😊
May God bless you on your journey.
To ensure the people in "Christian" groups are actually Christian and not in cults, in false churches or are false converts this guide can help. There is a little bit of work you should do to find solid ones, and it will help you grow in discernment as a young believer so it is worth consideration.
For resources to help you grow and mature in the faith this will be a great help. It is only 8 pages but packed with great stuff!
God bless
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