Dating an unbeliever
Q: I’m 20 years old and still a virgin. I’ve been dating this man who used to be a Christian before now he’s not (but he said he still believe in God). At first he agreed to wait for marriage but now he keeps reminding me about sexual stuff and how his body really needs it. He gets upset when i said I’m waiting for marriage. He often reminds me how religion is a lie and he would never be religious again. Before I thought he was sent by God, i don’t know what to do because i promised him i will never break our relationship. I’m afraid to leave too because i think i will make the wrong decision. Any advice pls?
A: You are not making a wrong choice....Leave that man, right this instant. Stop playing with fire. If he is no longer Christian that is the biggest red flag. Break up by text and block his number.
Those who walk away from Christ and still "believe in God" and "is against religion" are idolators and their father is the Devil. If he is not Christian "he is against Christ", it means...he follows demons and is controlled by Satan. Even demons believe in Christ and they tremble, Scripture tells us. He is decieving you to get in your pants, and he knows, as Satan does, that as soon as you have sex, you will be chained to that never satisfied ever seeking to commit sexual sin and constantly sinning against God and your body until you are married. Satan knows you will lust after sex and allow men to constantly dupe you into having sex, and rebelling against God long term.
Dude getting you to "promise" not to break the relationship shows he doesnt respect you, is trying to get you to make a deal with the devil for temporary gratification, and it is a demonic manipulation tactic to control you & trying to get you to do things that God says is wrong & sinful. DO NOT FALL INTO HIS TRAP.
in this sitiation, Sins committed:
1. Being unequally yoked (dating or engaged to) to a non actual Christian (and esp who has also horridly turned his back on Christ and the true God!).
2. Get you to sin and fornicate
3. Getting you to sin against your own body.
4. Commit adultery in your heart by sexual thoughts from now on.
5. Be rebellious and disobedient to God.
6. Not honor your parents by how you live; bringing dishonor.
7. Giving in to temptation
8. Allowing Satan to trick and deceive you
9. Covet something that doesnt belong to you...
10. Leads you off the path of righteousness and onto the path of destruction & damnation. [If not destroying your life, it will be destroying your faith with the end goal of getting you to "throw off God" too and suffer eternal damnation]
11. Trying to get you in a life long marriage to one controlled by Satan?!... with the satanic purpose of keeping you from all that God has planned for you in a marriage to a Christian man. Joining hands with Satan? Anathema.
The "sins committed" list goes on.... Why would you want to commit so many sins and wilfully???... when finding, marrying a godly man, and enjoying the gift of sex with your husband God gave, in the design God made and decreed for us to abide in> is the right path? You literally 😱🤦♀️ have no idea, no concept, no understanding of all that Satan is "trying to rob you of" in this life [as a servant of Christ who is to do good works, do ministry and Christian things together and freely w a Christian husband], and He also will prevent & steal manyyy eternal rewards from you as well. Why would you let Satan do that?! This is spiritual warfare we believers are to engage in, not be "derelict", and hide in a fox hole and built a life in the sand that will colapse, trap & drown you as soon as the 1st rain hits.
Do not let Satan get a foothold in your life. RESIST HIM [who is behind all of this scheme], flee from that man... and Satan and the demons will flee from you, who is standing firm and living rightly.
Repent to God about all of this and get back on the righteous path. Turn from worldly things and ways to holy righteous ones.
Get in the Scriptures. Read it daily without fail. Set a phone alarm and stick to it no matter what. You are to obey God and grow & mature in faith, you cannot do that if you are not in the Bible learning & applying, and memorizing verses.
Do you love Jesus? Do you love God? Then study to be an approved workman & follower of Christ, as Scripture says.
Also did you know?
1. The Bible is God communicating with you. And, Revealing His will for your daily life.
2. There is a very accurate quote that says: "Reading the Bible will keep you from sinning, but sinning will keep you from reading it." Satan doesnt want you to read it. He wants you to be lazy and weak and not know it so you cant obey it. Then he whispersv to you about your Pride and so you further neglect reading it until one day
Scripture is meant to bless you, and help you conquer sins, and mature in the faith and the knowledge of the Holy Word of God. Read it, believe it, obey and apply it. And thank God for it lighting the road and helping you walk the righteous narrow path.
Also... do not be alone with men. Not at your place, not at his place, not at friends either [cuz they could concoct lame stories on purpose to help him get you "alone" to prey on you for sinful sexual cornering as his prey.
OBEY GOD. FOLLOW CHRIST.
And never date anyone again who does not have fruit that he is actually Born Again Christian living a holy righteous life.
