Alcoholic Spouse guidance

Alcohol

Q: I am gradually losing my amazing husband to alcohol. He is detoriating, turning into some kind of monster infront of my eyes. There's always chaotic fights at home and always revolves around liquor and money. I miss the old him. I miss the old us 💔 I was born into Catholic family but got saved a few years ago.

Please tell me this situation will get better 😭. I need guidance. I want things to be better and harmonious at home. I want my husband to be better. How to pray for this? Can prayers change a person's addiction?


A: God is in the miracle business, but there's no guarantee he will be saved or restored to the man you knew before. There's no guarantee that he will choose Christ and you vs alcohol and destruction. We are in a fallen world and people tend to gravitate towards escapism vs seeking comfort and relying on/trusting God.

I would like to encourage you in these:

1. Pray. Pray from your heart. Pray for him to be saved/changed/restored, and pray for God to guide you to make any necessary changes in your life as a believer and as a wife. 

And be as godly wife as possible always living out faith and love and forgiveness in front of him. While also seeking out advice from God directly in Scripture. And being in the Word daily. Trust God to get you through this and to bring you closer to God because of it. 

2.  Go through this on Alcohol
and see if it might be helpful to have him go through it; when you ask him to have an important sit down with him and let him know you think it is where he is seeking comfort instead of in God. After that, have your pastor come over (for a brief unannounced visit) and seek to get him to agree to counseling (if that is the next step) but use a biblical counselor (linked here).

3. I dont know if he is saved but have him go through this before that above conversation (or if you think it would best work during the convo) to make sure he is saved.

4. If he is not saved, you should navigate these unequally yoked resources and implement them, regardless of the outcome. 


Whether he does get saved, sober, restored, God will use you to help women who are going through this as well in the future. He allows things to happen for various reasons and you can bring hope, help and healing to those going through what you went through. It will help encourage believers, strengthen their faith and bring them closer to God, but also help those going through this who are unsaved and it might be something God uses you to plant seeds or lead others to salvation. 


Ps. Praise God for your salvation, and your husband doesnt know it or see it yet but your love for him and desire to bless him and see him restored is known by God and hopefully one day he will realize what a treasure he has in you.


Additional resources
Growing Believers site


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