Workmates are mean
Hello guys! I need an advice and also a word of wisdom to y'all. I have this co-workers who speak, as I observed, like without thinking the words they're using or saying and most of those words are insults to/for me calling me crazy, mad, moron or idiot but for them it's a joke, and by the way and everytime they call me that I just smiled and keep quiet 'cause I really don't know how to deal with that kind of person. And I just thought that may be they're acting or talking like that because I'm very quiet person so may be they see me as an easy target or easy to bully, I admit that eventhough I started a month ago I'm still not close to my co-workers because I'm having a problem how to approach someone. I just prayed to God that I don't want to be part of their teams I don't think they'll see me as a teammate not even a friend nor a person, I think. And I have this feeling that all of them don't want to stay at the company because of the mistakes I've done this whole month that even a single tasks I failed to do it right eventhough I tried my best. Am I in the position to feel or to think that I'm the one they've wrong? Am I expecting too much?
First remember we are in a sin stained fallen world, and I doubt those who speak like that are saved. But how you respond (your words, behavior & attitude) does bear witness to Christ as your life is a witness to the world.
They appear to have a negative attitude, again because they arent touched by grace, and it could be the managers fault. I do not know if this is your 1st job or a new career position you slid into, but the hiring manager mustve thought you qualified, or needs to train you. Perhaps it is just part of the 6 month window where you are needing to give yourself grace to learn and be confident in what you do (there).
The better you get at the job (in the shortest amount of reasonable time) the more they will realize you are new and have done well. Some probably feel bad later after being mean.
If you dont think after 80 days that you can do this job, you should look for another one in case they dont keep you the full 90 days. But if it goes well, after 90 days you could bless those who were mean and rude to you during this time, by throwing inexpensive a thank you potluck lunch for those folk, or take them all out to a cheap meal somewhere to say thank you. And include the manager. And if some have done nice to you during that time, write out the thing(s) at the time & keep in a notebook. Then write a note and hand out in thank you or appreciate you card(s) at the end of the meal to everyone. That can maybe help them see you in a new light.
If we dont hold peoples sins against them, we can show the love of God. Plus God says if we forgive others he will firguvevus, but if we dont forgive others he wont forgive us. He has been gracious to save and firgive us so we likewise show we are His if we love and forgive others. How can the love of God be in us if we dont do as He does? That's the point.
