Feel husband is unappreciative 😔
Q: I feel unappreciated in my marriage.
A: I know what he did might hurt your feelings. I know when I spend time cooking and cleaning it up it is a lot of work - others rarely realize it (and I rarely hear thank you). But he trusts you will make a yummy or good meal and well...
Have you ever felt underappreciated in your marriage about anything? Well, today I did. I cooked a homemade taco bowl and I had all the fixins. My hubby had the audacity to first ask for Salt. I told him it does not need . salt. It's a taco salad. He then asked for ranch. Well stared at him in disbelief as I felt it was rude for him to suggest my food was not seasoned enough or was lacking. I cooked ground meat and added mushrooms, cilantro and lime rice, chopped and cut up onions, tomatoes and lettuce. I had three different types of shredded cheese, sour cream, salsa and side of jalapenos. I mean really!!! I just told him the next time 1 will give you a dry taco shell, shredded cheese, some salt and ranch dressing. Now, his bottom lip stuck out. And I do not care. Should I care?
1. It is a love service.
2. Scripture says we are to do all that we do, and do it well, as working to the Lord.
3. We are not to complain.
If he isnt saved, you need to radiate the love of Christ and bless with kindness, patience, self control, and seeking to put others first over yourself and your desires.
If he is saved, Jesus lives in him and we do have to remember that too. We aren't perfect but all live and grow and are to keep short sin accounts hourly and daily too. Don't let it become bitterness, ok 🤗.
If you are a newlywed it would be a surprise if he said this 👀. But we all fall short and mess up.
I do suggest praying about it, check your emotions, realize he isnt saying he hates your food or that you can't cook, he just has a preference. And it is ok we all have a preference. Some like to try new things, others like the same thing over and over.
You could try:
Asking him to go outside the box.
>>"no ranch nights", and fun things like that. You could text it in advance in a cute or silly invite image you edit from online.
>>"new menu nights" and he knows that means eating as is.
>>ask for a "kitchen date" he can help you make the taco salad... and yall do taste tests along the way, with kisses.
>>Or have it a "make it yourself" with the taco salad various dishes on the table with the ingredients portioned out for the meal , plus the condiments on the side.
>>You could try new recipes and have him rate it. You could do so at every meal. Make a cute fun score card with comments, and pick happy faces or hearts as label indicators:
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Meal Rating Card
💞🤩This was delicious!
💖😀this was tasty
💗🙂would eat this again
🧡😬Dont hate it, but not my cup of tea
❤😥I'm sorry i dont think i like this one
💛🙃Wouldnt mind if we eat it again, but kind suggestions/preferences:
💚😊Thank you for making this meal, I know it took a lot of time and I appreciate youuuu
Rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐🏆
Kisses: 💋💋💋💋💋
Other Comments:
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💝You can slide the filled out ones into recipe books or color sticker label the corner of the page red yellow orange or green, and for online recipes you can list the color note in the notes or comment area for reference. 😊
My husband knew in advance I couldn't cook. He was a cook before. *I used to burn meat occassionally and he just ate it 🤗😇 😅😬❤️
Even 25 yrs later if the meat is a bit overcooked 😅 he will ask for A1 sauce and i give it to him...while apologizing.
*😁 last year, I finally made a meat est temperature and cook time list on the fridge, for various meats and cut sizes, and use 2 alarms to make sure i go get it on time 😂.
It works 99% of the time 👍
Just know that ultimately as a human we are to do all things to glorify God and in love, and as working as unto the Lord. As a loving spouse we are to do our best and put others first, and not have a "me" mentality.
And grasping that will help you have a great marriage.
In this situation clearly you shouldnt try a revenge attitude to give him dry tacos or to fend for himself. Just like Scripture says if your child asks for a certian thing you wouldn't give them a snake instead. (Matthew 7:9–11)
We what we we are to sacrificially do in love, and in this case not make mountians out of molehills. 😊
Hope this helps
1 Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
James 1:2-4
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
2 Corinthians 13:5, Romans 8:9, Colossians 1:27 "the Spirit of Christ dwells in you"
Colossians 3:23-24
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ
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Footnote:
Cr online discussion. It is a situation many women might come across in marriage and helpful to address these kinds of situations & emotions so we can grow in faith.
