BF is Lukewarm False Convert

Concern my bf is a Lukewarm or False Convert

Q: My boyfriend is a lukewarm believer! So not sure if we are unequally yoked in this relationship. I am a firm believer that people have different journeys with God. What is a fine line that should push me away from him?

I feel like I lead him in the things of God. I lead us to pray, to read the bible, to discuss our relationships with God, everything. I can’t help but feel like if I didn’t, we would never discuss God. It makes me worry. He says he’s a Christian, has a bible, but says he "never has time to read it." What should I do? 

A: You need to obey God and intervention is needed here. 

Even while dating or courting He should be the one leading. You are unequally yoked and what you shared is  a sign of a false convert; not saved.

Illustration: If one Loves someone [Jesus] theyll communicate with Him daily just like one would w a spouse. If they claim to love them but "never listen to nor let Him speak to them, nor read the love letters from Him" it is an indicator that he really doesnt love nor have a relationship with Him. But also, will be that way towards you in the long run if you stay with him.


I recommend
1. Go talk to your pastor.
2. Talk to your pastor & then...

Inviting the pastor out to a private dinner [some Chinese places have private rooms] with both of you, and have the pastor bring up the reason for meeting. 


Pastor explain: Focusing on dating is to be like courtship; seeing each other with the purpose of marriage in mind. God will not allow his children (you) to be unequally yolked, and that includes when dating. There's a real concern here because [bf] seems to be lacking in a relationship with God. No desire to read the Word or live as a believer. [Ask him to send the 3 below links to the bf at the dinner to do as homework, and have a serious conversation with God, and then your gf (within the next 7 days)]. Because God wants men who will lead the Home and his wife as Christ leads & loves the church, if (bf) do not know the Word nor love God enough to be reading it daily and being guided by it, the relationship & home will be guided by whatever worldly thing the man gravitates towards and it leads to broken faithless home. If you pray and seek God's guidance and find the heart of the matter is 1. You need to actually be saved and surrender to God then grow purposefully as a man of God to be that godly husband in near future, and seek men in church to weekly "disciple and guide you" as you perpare to be that godly man a wife needs, or 2. Remain in apathy, being lazy about faith, continuing as a false convert who needs to man up and end the relationship....since she will nor date nor marry someone who isnt right with God and living like it.


Resources

1. Which Jesus and Gospel did you believe?
https://assets.livingwaters.com/pdf/freewonderfulbook.pdf

2. Examine Yourself
http://longertweets.blogspot.com/2022/10/self-examination.html

3. What is the Gospel
NeedGod.com


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