Submitting to Husband?
Q: I'm in agony. My husband hasn’t been faithful for practically our whole marriage (9rs). He stopped 2yrs ago but now its become him disrespecting and belittling me any chance he gets no matter who it’s in front of. I come second to last in his daily plans to future.
Just recently I became closer to God (about 2yrs) and I feel like that’s what’s helped open my love blinders and realize this is not what God wants for me in a marriage. I try to hold myself accountable bc I’m not perfect and although my friends and family appreciate the mother and woman I’m growing into it’s never enough for him. He love bombs me one week and tells me he can’t live without me but then the next week he’s telling me he doesn’t need me that I’m useless to him.
I’m a sahm to two girls under 5. Please pray for me I’m struggling to get out of bed or eat. Can you please help me see the future, bc I’m struggling spiritually, financially etc.
A: If he isn't saved, this is just what unequally yoked spouse have to deal with, as you love him as Christlike.
Grow in the faith daily to become more godly, so you can handle these situations in grace and live, and not from self focused mindset. Also submit to him in non faith related ways, as long as it isn't sinful to do so. If he wants a blue couch, blue it is. If he wants chicken dinner by 6pm, so be it. If he limits shopping, so be it. God provides. If he wants holidays at his family, work it out so you can still all go see your family too. Its not hard to let him have his way and in s way shows you respect his decisions. But, Serve in love and shine forth Christ. The more you do that, the less tension and arguments and dissatisfaction, cuz you will be serving the Lord, and seeking to win your husband to Christ.
Resources here will help you.
Unequally Yoked resources here can help you live godly before him to draw him to Christ.
*This also includes helps on recovering from infidelity.
Sinful people will behave as they do, so respond in a godly manner. Have the right mindset.
Get a Biblical Marriage Counselor if needed for you or both of you.
Unsaved men dont conquer sexual sins. So If he needs help, this can be of use, but only if he is open to it in a faith based way. He won't have victory over it without the power available by salvations transformation.
Dust yourself off, do whats right, live daily serving God, and live in peace of your salvation and His soverignty.
Anxiety and depression resources here can help.
Also, rejoice God has you at home so you can raise your kids up in the Lord 😊✝️.
God bless
