Q: Can we kiss or make out?
Q: is it a sin to make out with your boyfriend if you have no sexual intentions? I'm just wondering because me and him have both been taught that it isnt a sin in our church but google says otherwise. - teen
Google is not the Bible, but at least your tried to seek godly counsel. I dont know if that was from your pastor or given as flippant advice by a false convert in your church, but I am glad you still pursued godly advice....
Kissing is wrong bcuz it leads to thoughts & passions and... even if not for you, it causes "him" to have sexual thoughts and desires since men are designed/wired differently. And if he is moving in the direction of kissing or making out, his inner intentions are to take your virginity and have sex.
Jews and Christians in Bible times never dated, never kissed nor did immoral things like people today do. Their parents helped find a suitable life partner, today that still happens and courting (with guardians and guards in place) towards finding a mate and marrying. We should be following the same holy godly pattern today.
If you talk with him and he is not okay with your convictions and beliefs against hand holding, kissing, making out and sex, then he has no self control, is not respecting God, your parents, you nor your faith, and he is loosing the opportunity to get to know you, and you need to end the relationship. Full stop end it, cut him off. Otherwise he will push boundaries & lurk around you like a wolf seeking prey... even if he lingers around for 15 years as "friend", "hoping" you let your guard down and he can pounce! Do not befriend him. Unsaved immature men are that way; they are lead by their sinful lusts & desires.
Never be alone with him nor other men. Never go somewhere alone with them, not to movies, not to the park, not driven somewhere by him, not to his place, his buddys place, your place either. Men are seeking opportinities to corner you. Always go with a older chaperone who will be a guardian to protect you.
And examine him... only court biblical Christians. if he is not a born again believer, radically changed since conversion, always reading Scripture in his daily routine and always ficused on maturing in sanctification then he is court-worthy. Rare to find teens like that, so you focus on studying the Bible, maturing in the faith, doing well in school, and at the right time later, God will bring the right one into your life. Not the first one but the right one.
Here is detailed advice with Scripture on this matter.
Here are resources for growing believers. There is a special teen thru adult area in here you should explore well as well as all that the site offers. Bookmark the home page and check it out daily.😊
God bless!
