Relationship Issues
Q: My sister who is senior in High school, had been dating this guy for almost a year. They recently broke up because she was fed up with his continous lying. And a few days after their break up she found out he had been cheating on her through out the entire course of their relationship. She is take along time to heal over this... because she says (when dating) God gave her a vision and confirmation that that ex-boyfriend was to be her husband. She is really heart-broken over this. Can you advise?
A: The good news is she has a caring sister, and, she realized she should break up with him - and did.
Satan has the ability to come and show or whisper things that's not true; He tempts, lures, decieves, destroys, devours, toys with and damages lives. If he was meant to be her husband 1 he would not have continually lied, 2 he wouldn't have been cheating on her, and 3 he wouldnt have lured her into sex; assuming the couple were fornicating together since he is sexually active.
God would not bless any of this mess.
So, God would not give you visions or confirmations in opposition to Scripture. Scripture says to pursue godly men, this man is not, and if claims to be a believer he will continue to be unfaithful, and a man of no integrity, who behaves like a child of Satan.
If he claims to be a believer there is a high probability in todays churches that he is a false convert. He does need to get right with God, repent, turn from sin, seek forgiveness from 1. God and 2. you, and... 3. he does need to get counseling as men who have sexual sin issues will struggle with them for decades.
If he is not a Christian we are told not to be unequally yoked. She can encourage him to get biblical counseling, but she cannot continue the relationship.
God is separating this relationship for her own good, and she needs to "thank God" he didnt allow her to get stuck with that guy for life.
Also, we cannot try to force someone or God to give us a relationship "now" when it is not the right timing. Everything will go wrong for 80 years if you try to make something happen when God hasnt brought it nor blessed it. She will be better off later on. In this understanding she needs to grasp that her longing for a good man is right, but trying to rebel against God and not trust Him and the good future he wants to give her, by being heartbroken over a demon is not right at all. We cannot live in discontentment, or bitterness as if God doesnt have our good in mind.
And, she needs to rejoice and thank God... that God is giving her time to get very deep in the Word to be closer and closer in her relationship with God, her walk with Christ and bring her to maturity... so when the right man comes along, she will be a blessing to him and able to weather life storms together.
